FertilityNaturopath.com Forum: how can we increase my partners sex drive

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   hi,

my partner and i are wanting to try and conceive, but over the past 12mths or so his sex drive has dwindled considerably. our sex life has really dropped off the radar, but we both want to have a baby. however its EXTREMELY difficult to TTC when one half basically just isnt 'horny' (sorry- i really hate that word!). 

i think my sex drive is fine....but this issue is starting to put me off too- bcos i cant help but feel like maybe its bcos he isnt attracted enough to me. he assures me that isnt the case. hes started saying stuff like 'maybe once your over 40 you just arent so interested in sex' - he is turning 41 this week, and im 34.

SO sorry if this is TMI.... but the best way to explain is that basically, we start having sex, and he will have an erection, and then he will lose it..then he will get it again and then lose it again. its kind of excruciating, bcos i can see he is getting frustrated and i try and act like its no big deal, that hes probably just too tired or something.

i know this can happen...i know mens libido can drop after 40, but im just so worried about how it'll affect our relationship bcos in all the years weve been together its never been an issue. we've been together for 14yrs, its easy to feel a bit paranoid that maybe weve just been together so long that the chemistry has disappeared even though we love each other very much. 

can anyone suggest natural remedies that can help increae libido in men? he is unlikely to ever go and see a regular doctor so natural is probably the best way to go for us.

id appreciate any suggestions

thanks : ) 

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juniperjules Newbie Joined: 28 August 2009 Location: Australia Online Status: Offline Posts: 5	Topic: how can we increase my partners sex drive Posted: 29 September 2009 at 2:49pm
	hi, my partner and i are wanting to try and conceive, but over the past 12mths or so his sex drive has dwindled considerably. our sex life has really dropped off the radar, but we both want to have a baby. however its EXTREMELY difficult to TTC when one half basically just isnt 'horny' (sorry- i really hate that word!). i think my sex drive is fine....but this issue is starting to put me off too- bcos i cant help but feel like maybe its bcos he isnt attracted enough to me. he assures me that isnt the case. hes started saying stuff like 'maybe once your over 40 you just arent so interested in sex' - he is turning 41 this week, and im 34. SO sorry if this is TMI.... but the best way to explain is that basically, we start having sex, and he will have an erection, and then he will lose it..then he will get it again and then lose it again. its kind of excruciating, bcos i can see he is getting frustrated and i try and act like its no big deal, that hes probably just too tired or something. i know this can happen...i know mens libido can drop after 40, but im just so worried about how it'll affect our relationship bcos in all the years weve been together its never been an issue. we've been together for 14yrs, its easy to feel a bit paranoid that maybe weve just been together so long that the chemistry has disappeared even though we love each other very much. can anyone suggest natural remedies that can help increae libido in men? he is unlikely to ever go and see a regular doctor so natural is probably the best way to go for us. id appreciate any suggestions thanks : )
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Naturopath Administrator Clarissa - Adv Dip App Sc Naturopathy Joined: 29 March 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1817	Posted: 19 November 2009 at 1:12pm
	Here are a few herbs/vits you can use to increase sex drive: Zinc (sperm quality, libido) Arginine (sperm quality, libido) B-complex vitamins (for energy) Horny goat weed herb (libido, weird name but true) Ginkgo biloba herb (increase circulation) combine with regular excercise and I hope your hubby can get back to the baby making business soon. Good luck!

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